In one of my many incarnations I was a children’s talent agent representing child actors from ages 5 to teen. Most of the auditions were for TV commercials. During this process, a casting director would call me to send a child out to read lines or sometimes just to chat with her and then be put on tape. If they liked the child, he’d be called back one or two more times until he or she would be booked or dropped.
The disappointment of not being chosen was keenly felt by these little actors even though there are a lot of factors effecting these decisions that have nothing to do with the child’s attractiveness, talent or acting ability. One of my very young clients, however, always maintained a sense of confidence, joy and excitement when going out to auditions. I later found out that after each audition his Mom would congratulate him for doing his commercial” and they would celebrate. He read his lines, he talked to the camera, he gave his all and he really did do a “commercial”. He didn’t know or care whether he was getting a call back or whether the commercial he did would be on TV. He had done his job; he was having fun and was being rewarded for it. He was enjoying the journey and feeling proud.
That was over 20 years ago and I often think about that joyful little boy and the wisdom of the parents who gave him a foundation of appreciation for the success he was creating each and every moment. For many of us, by the time we’ve reached adulthood, we’ve so buried the joy of what we are doing under the burdens of being judged by ourselves or others that we lose
sight of the purpose of self expression. That’s it. Expressing and
How often do you recognize your small triumphs? When was the last time you acknowledged your project in process? Congratulate yourself for something today. And don’t just think it. Say it out loud. Your subconscious mind is listening.
Now, go celebrate how wonderful you are.
Warm wishes until the next blog post,
By Lynda Malerstein