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From Shattered Dreams to Dreams Fulfilled: It’s never too late!

“There is no telling how many miles you will have to run while chasing a dream.”  ~ Author Unknown

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Dear Readers:  

When I was 10 I wanted to be Barbra Streisand. I didn’t know who Barbra was, I just knew I wanted to wear a beautiful red dress, sing on a stage, get applause and move people with my voice.  My parents couldn’t afford voice lessons so I waited for a time when I could make my own dreams come true.  My dreams were shattered when, at 18, I became unexpectedly pregnant and had to shift all my priorities into learning how to take care of myself and a family. I grieved the loss of the opportunities and the energy that comes with youth and moved on.

Fast forward to mid-40’s, dreams of performing lying dormant but still calling out in a small weak voice to be heard.  I was certainly too old to start going after a recording career or to star on Broadway. And, honestly, I had a nice voice but nothing that would get me on American Idol. I had become a birthday party clown as a way to earn extra income and one day I got inspired to write a 30 minute children’s show including some kids’ classics and a few original songs.  I began to perform my show in malls and libraries and found that all the feelings that I had wanted from my original dream were being satisfied entertaining this small audience. The applause I got from pre-schoolers and their moms was as sweet as any I would have gotten on a Broadway stage. Sure, I was singing story time instead of Hammerstein, my red dress had polka dots on it and the stage was only 10’X10’, but I felt loved and appreciated and I know my voice brought them joy.  After several years I retired Lolly the Clown with a feeling of satisfaction that I had, indeed, achieved my dream.

I truly believe the Universe gives us many second chances if we keep our eyes and our minds open.   What was your dream?  What did you want to be, do, have?  What was the feeling you wanted to achieve by realizing that dream?  What can you do right now to give yourself the same kind of feeling you wanted from your early dreams?

The answer to letting go of the past and manifesting the part of the dream that is available to you now is there in your subconscious mind, waiting to be found.

Warm wishes until the next issue,

By Lynda Malerstein

Commercial Success

In one of my many incarnations I was a children’s talent agent representing child actors from ages 5 to teen. Most of the auditions were for TV commercials. During this process, a casting director would call me to send a child out to read lines or sometimes just to chat with her and then be put on tape. If they liked the child, he’d be called back one or two more times until he or she would be booked or dropped.

The disappointment of not being chosen was keenly felt by these little actors even though there are a lot of factors effecting these decisions that have nothing to do with the child’s attractiveness, talent or acting ability.  One of my very young clients, however, always maintained a sense of confidence, joy and excitement when going out to auditions. I later found out that after each audition his Mom would congratulate him for doing his commercial” and they would celebrate. He read his lines, he talked to the camera, he gave his all and he really did do a “commercial”. He didn’t know or care whether he was getting a call back or whether the commercial he did would be on TV. He had done his job; he was having fun and was being rewarded for it. He was enjoying the journey and feeling proud.

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That was over 20 years ago and I often think about that joyful little boy and the wisdom of the parents who gave him a foundation of appreciation for the success he was creating each and every moment. For many of us, by the time we’ve reached adulthood, we’ve so buried the joy of what we are doing under the burdens of being judged by ourselves or others that we lose
sight of the purpose of self expression. That’s it. Expressing and
appreciating ourselves.

How often do you recognize your small triumphs? When was the last time you acknowledged your project in process?  Congratulate yourself for something today. And don’t just think it. Say it out loud. Your subconscious mind is listening.

Now, go celebrate how wonderful you are.

Warm wishes until the next blog post,

By Lynda Malerstein

This was not what I expected for Xmas!

Hypnotherapy LAIt was the evening of December 23. I was blissfully going about my business when I heard a knock on the door.Standing there was Bob, my boyfriend of 4 months and the one I was sure was going to be my partner forever. He said “I came to pick up my things, I’m getting married to someone else.”   What???

I stood there paralyzed. There had been no warning. I thought everything was moving along wonderfully.  But even if I had noticed signs of trouble, this rejection and loss would have been stunning.  And two days before Christmas; a time when all you hear is love and family and giving your wife a diamond necklace to remind her how much you adore her!!!

I mechanically handed him the few belongings he had left at my house and shut the door behind him. I was devastated. How was I going to make it through Christmas?

Fortunately, one of the friends I called for support invited me to join her and a group that was singing carols at a nearby hospital on Christmas morning.  It was the first time I had ever done anything like that, and it became a significant, memorable event in my life.

Sharing yourself when you are feeling down is the best cure for the doldrums.  The hospital patients sang with us if they were able; or listened to us when they were too sick to move. Some wanted to talk with us about loved ones to feel as if they were bringing them near. They showered us with hugs, thanks, stories and blessings.  It lifted me out of the depths of my despair and helped me put things into perspective.  Of course, in the weeks ahead I grieved the end of that relationship and the insensitive way it had ended. But I had a wonderful Christmas Day and a lesson in the power and the gift of giving.  It had, in fact, been a gift to me.

There are so many who need what you have to share, even if it is only a stranger who needs your smile. There are shelters and churches and missions who are doing outreach for the holidays. There are people in nursing homes who have no family to visit them.  Make a few phone calls and find a way to share the gift of yourself. You are valuable.

AnchorMy Holiday Wish For You:

May this be a season of peace for you, for those you care about and for our dear Planet.

May you feel the love that surrounds you whether from your family of birth, your family of choice, your community or those for whom your smile makes a difference.

May you know that your being here makes the world a brighter place.

May the coming year bring you health, prosperity, joy and freedom.

AnchorHere’s a link to a lovely blog about gifts you can give to children that they will never forget.

Warmest Season’s Greetings

Lynda Malerstein


By Lynda Malerstein

Are you dating yourself?

In order to nurture the creative spark within, Julia Cameron suggests in her book “The Artist’s Way; A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity”, that you spend two hours a week going on an “artist date” with yourself. That means you make a commitment to find a place where you can go alone and browse, wander, dream, think, and experience. For some people this might be going to a bead shop or a car museum or a fabric store. For others a poetry reading, a museum or a design showroom. What might that be for you? 


For me, it was cultural experiences. I did her 12 week program and had a blast doing things alone that I might never had tried if it had not been a homework assignment.  I visited the largest Buddhist Temple in the United States, The Roy Rogers Museum, and took in several plays and ballets all by myself.  I was surprised to find that even alone I was a hot date! 


Taking yourself out for a date might be the most enjoyable time you’ve had in years. You don’t have to be at the mercy of anyone else’s schedule and you will be with someone you will really want to get to know better. 


Have fun!


Lynda Malerstein